Can a Short Man Be Alpha?
Some people believe that a short man simply has no chance of being alpha. It doesn't matter whether they go to the gym 24/7, put on a full-body paint of green, and look like mini hulk himself, as he is still seen as trying to compensate for his lack of height, and simply not tall enough to be taken seriously.
The thing is that this is a complete misjudgment of what an alpha male is, as an alpha male does not need to compensate for his lack of height.
A short man can be as alpha as a tall man. Height has little to do with alpha traits, and once this is understood it is something that can be addressed. It is too easy to hide behind height as the reason for problems occurring, and it is important to take control and start working on alpha male traits that will give you the life you desire.
If you are short and feel inferior, ask yourself - what are some things that you would want to do, but don't because of your short stature? Whatever your answers are, I can tell you now that it is not your height that is the problem, as in reality whatever height you are, it doesn't need to enter the equation when considering traits that represent an alpha male.
Height is just a characteristic and should not be an excuse to stop going after the beautiful girl, money, or whatever else you want. Everybody has insecurities and needs to overcome them, and if you do not let it become something more than it is (a physical characteristic), then your world will be a better reality.
Rather than talk about every alpha male trait out there, it is important to talk about the building blocks that will create a foundation to stop caring about height and to focus on self-development.
What Height is Too Short to be Alpha?
It is important to understand that you can showcase alpha traits at any height. For instance, if you have ever watched Game of Thrones then you may be familiar with Tyrion Lannister (played by Peter Dinklage), who is a dwarf. Yet he shoes the leadership qualities of an alpha male and is a masculine man.
Yes, this is a TV show, but the reason he survived to the end is that he displayed attractive traits that made him popular among viewers.
Without alpha male traits this would not have been possible, and this is one example showing how height should not prevent you from living a confident and fulfilling existence.
Are Short Alpha Men Attractive to Women?
There are many traits which women are attracted to, such as confidence, sense of humor, presentation, how you hold a conversation, voice tone, how you carry yourself, how you interact with others, and the list goes on and on.
Therefore, if height is an initial factor, if you showcase some of these traits and have underlying confidence about you then you can most likely turn that around and be highly attractive to her.
What is The Number One Alpha Male Trait?
Inner strength is the one enduring source of well-being you need. You can try to express alpha male traits as much as you like, but if you don't feel it from the inside it will look awkward and fake.
This needs to be slowly worked on, gradually improving the self and laying a strong foundation to develop yourself from (read below).
Gaining These Traits Takes Practice
Your alpha male status is not going to be achieved in a week or month and needs time and lots of inner work.
This is why it is important to not try and act differently to your real self, as this will be obvious and look out of place. This can also be confused with "little man's syndrome", by overcompensating for a lack of height, which needs to be avoided at all costs.
Saying that, here are some of the ways you can gain the confidence of an alpha male.
Self-respect Is King
The more attractive one feels the more height will not cloud judgment. So, start with considering your own feelings, identifying positive traits can give an initial boost of self-esteem. Work from there, and when feeling down about height think of the positive traits you have, and focus your energy on this, letting inner strength build.
Once self-respect has been gained, other things arise such as listening to your inner voice and expressing opinions, for example, learning to say no in situations that do not suit your needs. If you don't like something then you will voice it, not letting it get the better of you, which in turn builds inner power, as you are behaving towards yourself with honor and dignity!
If you get hung up on height then it will automatically weaken your self-respect making you less attractive, and you may come across as insecure. So in this case it's not the physical aspect of height that is stopping you, but more so the belief that stems from a lack of height.
A Sense Of Humor And Humility
Alpha males understand the difference between self-deprecating humor and self-depreciation. If self-deprecating comments are worked nicely into a joke and make you genuinely laugh then this is fine, but if they stem from a lack of confidence this can be unhealthy. If this is the case the avoid them until you are more sure of yourself, as repeatedly putting yourself down can really harm confidence.
When we learn to not take ourselves too seriously people feel comfortable around us and let their guard down for some banter. In this environment height is one subject that might frequently enter conversations if you are noticeably short, as physical traits are easy to laugh about (friendly banter), and it may enter conversations around friends or those who feel comfortable around you.
This is no big deal, as things that people see as legitimate hindrances will usually not be mentioned in a joking manner.
Avoid Running Away From problems
Alpha males do not put blame on their lack of height. Height can be something to put blame on, as it is outside of your control. I mean, you are not responsible for how tall you are. So by putting the responsibility on height this you are not confronting things that you are responsible for, which are actually completely unrelated to height.
A good way is to start your alpha male journey is to compete with small things that you consider a challenge, as after you have slain them, you should feel good and start to forget about your lack of height. So, repeat the process to build up power inside.
As soon as you start to take responsibility and work on yourself you will see reality in a different way. Some examples are to dress and groom well, work out, put yourself in social situations more so you are living in reality and can make the most of what is available. Thinking and reading about the problems people face with height are far from the reality you will face outside.
This will involve something called exposure, where you will repeatedly go into your feared situations until you feel a 'release' from them. The phrase "JUST DO IT" comes to mind.
Desire To Work Hard And Improve
Tallness is often associated with high levels of success, in the workplace, sporting world, and other professions. It has been shown that on average taller people earn more money than their shorter counterparts, are successful in many professional sports, and so on.
It is easy to get caught up in this way of thinking and to see a tall height as alpha and the primary reason all this is possible, but if you ask most successful people about how they got there, it is through a lot of hard work! You will notice that they also showcase alpha male personality traits including dedication to their craft and the determination to get what they want.
If you see height as the one thing letting you down then it is easy to use it as an excuse to avoid working towards the top jobs or to raise yourself up the ranks, as this mindset believes that height itself is going to make it near impossible, but if you think like this then you obviously haven't started to work hard and stick at something.
It takes time, sweat, and perseverance to be successful at anything worth having, and if you develop the right drive to do so then your height will not be an issue. It is true in some cases that talent can determine how far you will go, but height is not a factor in 99% of cases. Focusing positive energy solely on something can yield amazing results and will attract success around you, I don't know why - it just does.
Who Are Some Famous Alpha Males?
11 famous men who showcase alpha male traits include:
- Peter Dinklage - 4'3" (132 cm) Supremely confident actor
- Joe Pesci - 5ft 3 (160 cm) Have you seen the film Casino - enough said!
- Bruno Mars - 5'4" (162.6 cm) Supremely confident and talkative singer
- Manny Pacquiao - 5'5.5" (166.4 cm) Boxing legend
- Jet Li - 5'5.5" (166.4 cm) Action star playing the main role in many manly movies
- Al Pacino -5'6" (167.6 cm) Acting his roles in Godfather and Scarface solidify his alpha status!
- Tom Cruise - 5'7.75" (172.1cm) A highly charismatic actor
- Robert Downey JR - 5'7.75" (172.1cm) A highly charismatic actor
- Mark Wahlberg - 5'7.75" (172.1cm) Actor, ex-model and ex-rapper
- Bruce Lee - 5'7.5" (171.5 cm) Martial arts expert and philosopher
- Kevin Hart 5'3 (161.5cms) Supremely confident and can control a room through his confidence with comedy
The Bottom Line
Height is meaningless when it comes to alpha male traits such as self-assurance and being a leader, through leading yourself on the path to victory. Would you rather be 6ft and average in just about every way, or 5'4" and practice alpha male traits such as taking good care of yourself and having a confident approach? Let's flip this around, and use height as the positive starting point to develop other things, get out into the real world and enjoy what it has to offer, and be rewarded for it.
I have personally seen highly successful short men displaying alpha male characteristics, with women flocking around them because they own their height and all their other characteristics in the same basket.
Yes, height is a physical trait that is in front of everyone's face so may come up in conversations, but when it does they confidently let it slide right out the door and move onto another topic, left unphased, and you know why - because height doesn't matter to them.